Prenatal woman being checked in by our Sudanese staff. |
One of my patient’s obstetrical history looks like this:
G8 P5 L4 A2 M1
1st baby: SAB (Spontaneous Abortion) at 2 months -- Clots.
2nd baby: Delivered --Alive.
3rd baby: SAB at 1.5 months.
4th baby: Delivered --Alive.
5th baby: Twins --Both alive.
6th baby: Delivered alive but died at 1 yr. old.
7th baby: Delivered preterm at 6 months but died at 1 yr. old.
8th .... she’s now 5 months pregnant.
She’s only in her early 30’s and yet she has already knows the heartache of two miscarriages and two tiny coffins. But would you believe it... her history is a happy one compared to the rest.
Three times this week I’ve had women sit on my prenatal bed and flatly detail their obstetrical history. And three times this week I have wanted to cry.
I am sharing their information with you with permission. They said it’s okay for me to tell you so you can pray.
So please pray....
Athnony -- age 30-ish (G6 P3 L0 A2)
She had two miscarriages and three live-births but all three babies died shortly after delivery or before they were weaned. She’s 6 months pregnant now. Pray that this baby lives and grows to be a gray-beard who loves Jesus!
Achuei -- in her mid 20’s (G4 P3 L1 A0)
She’s given birth three times but one died after two days when it didn’t breastfeed and the other died when crawling. She has only one baby at home that’s alive. She’s in her second trimester but I’m not sure of her gestational age. May this tot be a delightful pest to his mother and a prize to his father. May he grow up to have a large family of his own who all know and love Jesus!
Monica -- in her late 30’s (G5 P4 L1 A0)
Her first baby died at 3 1/2 months old, her second child died at 5 years old and her third child was born term but died after 7 days of labor during which she claims she was treated for meningitis by the local witch-doctor.
Well.. this WAS her obstetrical history until two weeks ago when her only remaining child started having breathing difficulties. She brought him to our clinic for treatment but he eventually succumbed to his infection and died. He was only 4 yrs. old.
When I saw her this morning and learned of her loss it took everything in me not to weep outright. But such displays of emotion are not permitted here... and I blinked back my tears.
Lord... she has suffered the loss of ALL her children. Only You can know her pain! Only You can comfort her in this dark time! Lord, please touch her and give her peace. Help her to grieve and yet still hope...
She is 7 months pregnant now.
Pray this baby lives. Thrives. Survives. And loves his mother with joy, bringing her laughter in her old age!
Thanks.
Dear Stephanie,
ReplyDeletei read your storys and each destiny of the women makes me cry. Yes, I pray for them. As a mother of three healthy children who can grow up in wealth I have only a sense of the pain they feel. Unimaginable.
I' very impressed by your work. My dream is to become a midwife but in Germany it' very difficult to get a place. Maybe one day. If the lord want it.
My prayers for you and all around you.
Greetings,
Sandra
(my english is not very good, I hope you understand :-)
Stephanie, I love your blessings on the kids and have prayed for you and the moms right along. I am so glad the Livesay blog directed me to you. Your struggles and ability to take breaks has been instructive to me even after 34 yrs of nursing or perhaps because. I push ahead to exhaustion frequently not seeing beauty of joy.
ReplyDeletethanks you.
Cheryl
Stfanie -
ReplyDeleteI will totally join you in praying for these moms and their families. It must be so hard to witness this, and to witness God's love in the midst of this sorrow. Be assured of the eternity of the soul of the infant - moms can be assured that they will hold their children in heaven!
Hugs and prayers,
Sara